It's something when who you are is blessed isn't it. It seems like this intangible thing that you can't create or ask for.. You don't die if it's not there. In fact, it's not even necessary to build a relationship on.. it just "IS." Some people just know, while others can be told and still don't seem to be able to connect. I wonder if that's not such a bad thing.. otherwise we'd all want to be best friends with everyone else on the whole planet and we'd just talk and play all day and never get any work done. Nah. Kidding. Maybe it's special because it's rare. Anyway, you know when there's this one thing about you, and it's not good or bad, it's just not something a lot of people care about or share with you? It's not like they demean it, they just forget and never bring it up. But it's there and it's part of you. If they were deliberate, even though the intentions are there, it's awkward and incomplete. And then some day, someone sees it.. sees you, and you're like ... what? Seriously? You can see that and you're placing value on it? You're not kidding with me? And they are totally not. That's neat. It's like a crisp fall day and you've been staying warm but you were sweating in your jacket so you're starting to cool off. But then the sun comes out unexpectedly and suddenly your back is warmed. Immediately you know that despite the cold, your coat can come off and you turn around and soak in every little morsel that you can. That's good.

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The Goerzen Girls...and Art said…
How deep you are, my friend! And speaking such truth....it is such a gift to be with people who "get" us/it. You know what I mean!
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